dating troubleshooting
get a sanity check from someone (relatively) unpoisoned by gender discourse who's spent way too much time working out the whole 'dating and relationships' thing from first principles.
we'll spend about an hour identifying what's blocking your dating life and setting up a game plan to tackle the issue
email me (goblinodds @ gmail dot com) to book a meeting
other stuff
matchmaking
email me (goblinodds @ gmail dot com) to book a meeting
matchmakers usually charge a ton for ongoing in-person interactions; i expect to work my way up to the standard model as my network grows, but while i'm building up my database, here's how it works:
initial meeting
i charge a flat $100 rate for the initial meeting; it takes 1-2 hours to get a real sense of what you're like and what you're looking for.
if you want to get a sense of how these matchmaking interviews will go, check out my public matchmaking interviews
matching process
as i build up my database, i'll keep checking back for potential matches. when i find someone, i'll run you by each other (basic info, photos/video if that's on offer) and see if we can set up a meeting.
follow-up
after each date, i want to hear from both parties about how it went!
if you book a follow-up meeting (same rate as our initial meeting), we'll video chat again to discuss how your date went and either a game plan for your next date or how we can improve future matches
i'll also contact your date to discuss, if they're willing, how things went on their end.
free alternatives
fill out this questionnaire if you want to be included in my private database for free (as in: i'm not actively matching you, but i'll look at your questionnaire when searching for matches for my clients)
[currently on hiatus: shoot me an email at goblinodds @ gmail dot com if you want to get on the waitlist for future public matchmaking interviews]
location
i'll be focusing on building a local database wherever i'm living (currently in flux; looking like either los angeles or miami for the next year or so); most of my network is on the west coast and in nyc. if you're not in or frequently visiting these areas, finding a match will be tougher, but i'll do my best
recommendations
i'm focused on finding people a spouse, not dates. (poly complicates the terminology here but the following still applies. replace spouse/marriage/whatever with some variation on 'lifelong commitment' as necessary):
if you're not looking to get married within 3 years of meeting someone, i'm probably not the right matchmaker for you.
if you *are* looking to get married, focus is important. date one new person at a time with an eye towards marriage. don't sleep with them if you don't see real potential for something serious. casual sex has a place but imo the search for a life partner isn't it. (happy to elaborate on this if you want to know the rationale)